MOBBING
Bullying is more than just being annoyed a little bit – and it is never harmless!
What is bullying?
What motivates some children to bully others? How do children feel when they are bullied? What can each child do if they feel bullied? How can one child help another who is affected?
Questions upon questions about a phenomenon that is increasingly shaping our everyday lives. Sometimes it seems that the term is being used indiscriminately. Any form of violence that may affect an individual is then referred to as "mobbing".
When do we speak of bullying?
Bullying among children occurs when a particular child is regularly and systematically harmed physically or emotionally by other children, either directly or indirectly. Bullying can occur even in children of kindergarten age. The tricky thing is that bullying always starts with seemingly harmless teasing and is rarely obvious. You should therefore be sensitive to it.
This is the only way children can cope with the increasingly complex and stressful challenges. This is the only way they can cope with difficult and traumatic life experiences.
There are different types of bullying:
How do you recognize bullying among children?
Bullying often takes place in a very hidden way. The children affected initially suffer in silence. Only when they see no other way out do they confide in their parents. This is often preceded by a long period of suffering for the children affected. In many cases, events develop in a similar way:
At first, a conflict leads to blame and personal attacks. This conflict can be open, but also hidden. If you intervene in this phase, you will notice that the "stronger" parties are not interested in a solution.
Then the harassment begins. The person concerned becomes the target. Psychological terror and systematic injuries occur. The original conflict no longer plays a role. These are personal, degrading attacks.
The bullied person reacts helplessly and feels insecure. At this point, children start to develop fears such as fear of school, insomnia, avoidance of school and depression. The attackers realise that they are in the stronger position. This makes their attacks more severe.
At some point, the victim escapes the attacks by avoiding school, changing schools, running away or, in the worst case, by committing suicide.
In some tragic cases, victims of bullying have suicidal thoughts or commit suicide. Therefore, it is crucial to combat bullying in all its forms.
Bullying is a serial killer, and children are particularly at risk.
When a child dies, any prevention comes too late.”
Carsten Stahl
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